“Thank you for calling Customized men. How may I help you today?”
“Yes, I’d like to order a man please”
“Sure, let me walk you through online.”
“Yah, I’m interested in Man model #143K”
“What size do you prefer?”
“5’9″. 180 lbs”
“Extrovert or introvert”
“Would you like to add any bonus features?
“Yah, flowers once a week feature and top athletic skills please.”
“Uhm, I noticed this model has a habit of smoking. Could you remove that please.”
“Of course! We’ll have him shipped to you in two weeks. Will we be using your Visa or MasterCard?”
I’ve been in the BPO industry for 5 years now.. 4 and a half years as a support and a Team Lead. How I wish it’s just this easy to build Mr. Right. But how do we really know who Mr. Right is?? I’ve read tons of internet articles about this. Here’s the top 10 on their list.
1) He makes you laugh
2) He loves you beyond words
3) He respects you
4) He listens to you
5) He’s protective and not possessive of you.
6) He communicates well with you
7) You both have the same goal
8) You feel safe around him,
9) There’s little to no drama between you two
10) He moves mountain to be with you.
Now here’s my argument on why I don’t believe in them. oh no.. no.. no… Don’t worry I’m not being bitter about this. Give me a chance to explain. Geezzz 🙂
But before that let me tell you a little about the cycle of love. In the beginning you fall in love with your partner. This is called the honeymoon stage. You look forward to seeing them. You anticipate their calls. You talk to them 24/7. You wanna hug them, kiss them, hold hands with them. You find everything they do cute. You enjoy every moment with them even down to the non sensible ones. Falling in love with them is as easy as ABC and 123. Very natural and spontaneous.
Then after years of being together, normally occurs after the second year. The euphoria of love fades and let me tell you, this is a NATURAL cycle that happens in EVERY relationship. Slowly, Phone calls becomes a bother (if they come at all), The flower you give your partner once a month becomes a chore rather than an expression of love. You now wish for more alone time without your partner and the things that they do that you find cute before now drives you crazy. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship. This is where you’ll see the difference between the initial stage when you were in love VS now which is a duller stage.
Now this is where you or your partner might start asking. “Am I with the right person?” as you reminisce on the euphoria of the love you had before. You may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationship breaks down. You start thinking you don’t love your partner anymore because you don’t feel the same spark as what you’re feeling with this new girl/boy. You let go of you your current partner without knowing that you’re starting the cycle all over again and will be in the exact same spot 2 years after.
This is why I disagree with the checklist above. I had the check list marked down to the last one yet my previous relationship still failed. Though those things play a big role in any relationship, God plays a bigger role in it! The things you feel initially for your partner is only temporary eventually it will fade. Its inevitable! This is where I need love to be a decision and not merely a feeling. Because keeping a relationship is a full time job. It’s not just good times. It takes time, effort and energy. It’s a handful. And without God, It’s bound to fail. Eventually you will run out of things to talk about and if you can’t talk about your faith and the bible through devotion or small group it’s never gonna work. It might for quite some time but it won’t last. So for me, the number 1 criteria that you should look for in Mr. right is, GOD! He must have Jesus as His Lord and Savior. A relationship with God is the most important relationship you can ever have. Remember to put God first in your relationship, marriage and your home because where there is Christ, your foundation will always remain solid. If you have a relationship with God everything will work itself out.
What’s your definition of Mr. Right?? I wanna know. Feel free to leave comments below.