Going through the ultimate heartbreak with my first ever boyfriend was harder than I thought. Click link for the whole story. As a kid, I told myself I will never cry over a boy. That I would move on after 2 days. Easier said than done, I know! And now that I’m living the moment, I therefore conclude, it’s not possible to move on in 2 days haha 🙂 Though it is possible to move on at a faster rate. Let me show you how.
1) Hold on to your faith
All throughout my heartbreak I only have one verse in mind. Isaiah 66:9 God said “I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born.” I kept repeating this verse over and over and over again until the heart break is not as painful anymore. I’m not saying it’s going to be painless because the enemy would always remind you of the pain every single day. You have to remember, you become most vulnerable when you go through heartbreak. The enemy will take advantage of this by whispering lies to you like “you are alone”, “you’re lonely”, “no one loves you”, “no one cares for you”, “no one will ever love you again” and, lastly, the enemy will strike you with the biggest lie of all “Even God doesn’t love you anymore”. Don’t listen to the enemy. When you start hearing these lies, always go back to the word of God. Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.” Psalm 34:18 “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.“ No matter what you’re going through, we always have to hold on to His promise that He will never leave us nor forsake us. Then once we get past all of the enemy’s lies, pray! Pray for guidance. Pray for God to lead you to the right people to help you move on through fellowship. Pray for God to grant you the peace to accept the things that you cannot change, the courage to change the things that you can and the wisdom to know the difference.
2) Seek God’s Kingdom
Victory (Every Nation Church) played a big part in my journey to recovery. Going through my heartbreak, I had so many questions in mind. Why? Why me? Why now? Luke 11:9 “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” As I go forth with my walk with Christ, I learned that God answers us in many ways. Let me name some. First is by attending services/mass and listening to the pastor’s preaching. During the course of my heart break, all Victory services felt like it was tailored fit for my situation. I’m not kidding. I normally cry while listening to the preaching basically because God is answering every question that I have. I’m not exaggerating when I say EVERY question. Next is through reading the Bible. As you go through the word of God, wisdom will follow. Last on my list will be through fellowship. I learned to open up my life with fellow Christians. God will use people to help you in your journey. Fellowship will keep you grounded in God’s word and will always remind you of God’s promises in your life. They helped me grow in spirit and I will forever be thankful for that.
3) The best support system
Regardless if you have the most number of friends on earth, the best support system will always be your family. I’m blessed to have a family that love and support me to the best of their abilities. They made sure I was accompanied at all times. They took me places to take my mind off the pain of heartbreak. Me and my sister did devotion together. We even did art therapy together with my brother. They made heart break bearable. I had the best time with them. You see, prior to the break up I didn’t have that much time for them because I was too busy spending time with my boyfriend. 2015 has taught me one of the greatest lessons in life, “Nothing beats an adventure with your family!”
4) Igniting Fellowship
I love travelling. Me and my ex boyfriend used to travel together all the time. And so when we parted ways I told myself “Looks like you won’t be travelling as much anymore”. Few weeks later, low and behold AWESTRUCK singles getaway. It’s one of Victory’s events. It’s a 3-day and 2-night singles retreat. I was able to travel, because it was held in Punta Fuego, Batangas and I got to reflect and learn God’s word since it’s a retreat. Perfect timing right? Nah, there is no such thing as a coincidence in a Christian’s life. It’s all orchestrated by God. I was scared to join at first because I didn’t know anyone. As in no one!! So I started to accept the fact that I’m going to be alone for the whole retreat and that’s ok because I personally want to be alone so that I can reflect and have a moment with God. “Alone time it is!” I told myself. But God had a different plan and His plans are perfect. Jeremiah 29; 11 “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” I was part of group 7. We called ourselves Pitawesome. See separate article about Pitawesome. I found new brothers and sisters in Christ. The rest was history. We have been inseparable since then. We were able to maintain our friendship even beyond Awestruck. Aside from Pitawesome, Singles Getaway also opened the door for me to meet other people who helped me grow spiritually. I’m so blessed to have these people in my life. God took one person away and gave me a lot more and for that, I am forever grateful.
5) Art of serving
I strongly believe that we were all given talents so that we can use it to advance God’s kingdom. I planned on serving the church many many years ago but wasn’t able to do so because of this thing called “boyfriend” whom you should spend time with. Big mistake I know. I was in love that time! But I’ve learned my lesson. Ladies, please learn from this as well. Use your talents well; otherwise it will be taken from you. And so I did. Now I’m part of the music ministry in Victory serving the Lord our God to the best of my abilities. There is no better feeling. I couldn’t be happier.
My last point, most people treat heartbreak like it’s the end of the world. Take it from someone who was single since birth, had her first boyfriend at 23 years old, and was cheated on 2 years after, it’s not!!! It’s actually the start of a new beginning. Do things that you weren’t able to do when you had a boyfriend. See pics below. You have the power to choose. You can either cry/ be depressed for all eternity, or you can trust God and believe that He has plans for you. Use your time as a single individual to advance God’s kingdom through fellowship, discipleship or joining ministries. Ask God for guidance and to take control over your emotions. Easier said than done, I know. But we have a mighty God who is bigger than our situation. Have faith.